Hence, “Let’s not try”

Hence, “Let’s not try”

Mediocrity is easily accepted and at times we don’t even realize when we become the victims of our desires. The restlessness and anxiety win over the internal fight with the mind and people eventually give in. Sounds a lot familiar? Yes this is what generally happens with the people in their late 20’s.

Expecting to have someone by your side to share all your happiness and worries is quite natural. We all certainly want to be loved, feel the warmth for that special someone; need that person to stand by us, understand our emotions, accept our flaws and share a happily ever after married life together. Who doesn’t want that? Most of us; how much ever independent or non-believer in marriage or relationship kind of people are the natural instinct of having that special someone never vanishes.

 But then what happens when this special someone takes a miserably long time to show up and we have no clue when and where to find them especially after the experiences of the series of failed relationships or heartbreaks in the past. Well, sometimes this leads to not so prolific choice and mechanically the heart desperately starts searching for that special someone in almost everybody who is available around. The solitude haunts the mind to such extremity that we become so unbelievably adaptive just to please any the new prospect.

Rest reasons leading us to settle down for mediocrity are very common but can vary from person to person. Like the pressure of traditional families, the mindset of fearing the society norms, financial reasons or sometimes even the dread of dying alone. All these anxieties then result into pushing for the wrong relationships, chasing wrong people, changing yourself totally for someone which is never so important in an ideal relationship, approaching your old friends; and seeing your prospective groom or bride in every deserving person around.

There’s nothing wrong in expecting romantic companionship or finding true love; however losing yourself in this process may certainly make things complicated. One should surely not suppress their feelings if they feel naturally inclined towards someone but forcing yourself to like someone definitely lands you in trouble eventually. Why give up on love at such times, or why ignore our inner voice which certainly wants authenticity, meaningful bonding. Just because most of the people around have found their mates already and have started with their happily ever after means we too got to have someone immediately?

The uncanny irony of life is when we fell in love during the school- college days, we named love as infatuation or childishness; people around us sometimes even imposed this thought that this is not the age to love; it’s the age to study and focus on your career, when that phase passed and we fell for someone in our professional network we feared whether our professional life would get hampered or if not that then whether the marriage is going to be possible or considering the family issues etc. However we never felt the urge of getting settled down back then assuming it would be too early but sometimes the real reason is we just merely want to weigh all our options and wait for the better one; as we are in no hurry unlike the late 20’s.

Being practical and thinking rational is important since getting married has become a big deal these days. However can we just ask ourselves one honest question before hurrying or chasing the wrong people, what if you find that special someone after getting married to this mediocre prospect? Will I be able to resist? Let that amazing person pass just because I once decided to try falling in love. The perfect one got little late but that individual has finally made it and now we are in such a miserable dilemma that we blame the time, fate and end up being confused. Naturally this may also cause ruining a lot of lives together, or suffering in silence.

That’s when we realize that how immature it was to label, “lets try” for something so precious and so unique, and then regret when you find what you were looking for in this new person.

One should undoubtedly not wait if you find your mate and feel completely certain about being with him or her. But convincing yourself to like someone turns out to be blunder most of the times. This doesn't mean that one has to fear falling in love or should not be adaptive for their partners. Apparently there are no perfect relationships; but why to force something which isn't meant to happen. When the right person enters let him or her find their own place; why to occupy it with someone who isn't meant to be there! Hence, Let love find us, just have a little faith! And let’s not try….