What makes you stay back?

“Relationships filled with strong emotions survive for a long and sometimes for a very long time”; may be a thought or an idea you can find only in romantic novels or movies. And is it relevant in a real life situation too? Perhaps a really complicated question and the answer may even differ according to the situations people are currently facing in their present relationships or on the basis of their past experiences.

Some with a sheer elation of a new relationship, some with a aggravation of dragging a dead relationship, some with a broken heart who have learnt their new lesson, some in a total dilemma of courtship stage hesitant to decide whether they should take that step further or not and then there are some who have stayed with each other despite all the hard times, they are the ones who have grown with each other as a human being.

  There, this last category is where all the genuine answers can be found. People sail through all the difficult times not under the obligation to stay together for a lifetime but perhaps there’s something irresistible and unique in their partner that makes them stay. A long term relationship which has gone through a lot of good and bad times is inevitably based on a lot of understanding and few unsaid sacrifices. Sometimes it can not be about finding the next best suitable option for the damage within us, in contrast it could be just about holding back for a little more time and rekindle the bond by honouring the vows once made by both of you with the natural instinct.

People evolve with time so does the relationship! Not all the changes can be adopted at the right time by two people who decide to be together; leaving each other to figure out the changes for a while may help to overcome this challenge. Distance certainly makes us crave for our routine after a while. Routine, which is not only filled with compromises or adjustments but also has a profound meaning in its existence. No, it is surely not that easy to vow of living with each other forever and giving your best to sustain the relationship at all the times. There would be definitely a lot of expectations; demands, disappointments, disagreements, and loathing also come along as a baggage; everything that would make you feel exhausted and take a toll on your mental peace.

And these are few reasons which make us run away from relationships and their burdens. It isn't possible to perhaps always escape as there would be a time where you really need that someone to be your side, nobody can understand anybody completely. But the one who understands the real you and a lot of you is the one for you!

Being loved by someone like this is an amazing feeling and loving someone insanely like this is even more enchanting. Not quitting when all the circumstances go against your will is surely painful but enduring this pain for a while can be worthy sometimes.

No relationships are perfect; not even the ones which are based on deep friendships and exceptional bonding. Nevertheless there are always these few reasons or could be one reason that makes us stay in the same relationship. Being afraid of finding that reason in the next relation may stop us from abandoning the current one. The stronger is your reason, the more determined you are to accept the true colours of your lovers. So the blend of the ability to foresee the possibilities and valuing the once strongly felt emotions land such lovers into reconciling. Beyond all the fights and agonies sometimes there’s a reason to stay back and if you happen to discover even one of such reasons then trust your impulse and make the right choice!